I'm so tired of dealing with people who hear the proverb "good fences make good neighbours" and don't understand the irony. I'm more of a Robert Frost devotee, I agree with this point of view, right here.
Why am I thinking about this now?
Because my neighbours are today unilaterally extending the fence between our houses, all legal supposedly. It's already a very very high fence between our backyards, yes an okay design, but way too tall. The sole reason it was built so tall is because the female half of the couple next door is paranoid and convinced we are peeping in her house and staring at her. She also hates children and does not want to look at ours, or hear ours, or know that children exist. (She has said this to other neighbours who reported it back to us. She used the exact word "hate". She also told me that she is afraid of crowds and people touching her. Sigh....)
We are in a very urban neighbourhood, with high narrow houses, skinny long lots, and really, not much privacy. This particular neighbourhood is child central, a place where pregnant women, small children and dogs go together like lattes and biscotti. This is probably the absolute last place on earth that a child-hating woman should have moved. It's hard enough for an infertile with a history of pregnancy loss to be here. If it wasn't for my kids I wouldn't even have moved here! I can't for the life of me figure out why they picked this area. She is slightly older, and from what she has said never wanted children, never tried to have them, nothing. She knows our history so I'm sure she was telling the truth.
The fence will now extend in between our houses and gives us only 1 foot of space for people to come in and clean our eavestroughs or repair the wall or roof if needed. There are no windows and doors there, so it wasn't like we could see them anyway, but we are just going to find it impossible to maintain our property now. Plus we had planned on doing some renovations and construction and we need to be able to access the side of our house to rip it down or change it. The fence will be destroyed in the process, and we will now have to pay to rebuild it. Stupid, stupid, stupid.
Whenever I have discussions about this with Mr.Cotta btw, he assumes that I am saying that people should be barred from living in certain types of neighbourhoods, or doing what they want with their own property. And I'm not. I just despair of a world full of people who keep trying to fit their personal square pegs into round holes.
Like, if you are an elderly widower, is it smarter to live in your own home, a non-handicapped accessible home full of tripping hazards and stairs, with no one to talk to but your cat and expensive repair issues? Or is it smarter to move to a local senior's apartment building, with friends and activities, and railings in the bathtub, just in case? Memories are lovely, but broken hips are painful, I think.
Or if you are a person who can't stand children and longs for silence and space for your garden, should you move to a downtown urban neighbourhood filled with kids and traffic and a postage stamp for a backyard? Will you possibly be unhappy? Will you make your neighbours unhappy?
I know I'm ranting again, but I'm also completely unclear as too why she keeps building bigger and bigger fences all around her. What the hell is the point of this?