I'm feeling very awful lately, mostly because I can't sleep properly. I'm having very very bad leg muscle spasms. They don't hurt but they jerk me awake. Creepy as hell, and impossible to sleep through.
My stomach is upset a lot, heartburn is beginning. I'm still getting some wild nausea if I sense any soft or undercooked eggs anywhere within 500 feet. But really, if I could just get some good solid sleep I'd feel a hell of lot better.
Another reason for not sleeping well? My husband went out after work to meet a friend for a drink, and I truly can't stand this friend of his. She is not someone I have had much respect for, for well, years, but lately I've felt rather, grrrrrrrrr, every time her name comes up. She used to work in the same office as him, as an assistant, and had innumerable problems she would lay at his feet and ask advice about. (She had a serious mental health issue years before and her husband supported during her recovery, but it still kind of weighed on her as an issue.) She was nice enough, and we all went out for dinner a few times, her husband included. So fine whatever.
But then, she started doing much better, in fact, she did some more studying and her career really took off. At the same time, her relationship with her husband began to tank, partially because their youngest son had some LD, but mostly because there was a massive layoff at his workplace, and he got a package, but was having trouble getting another steady satisfying job. At one point, he was finally diagnosed with ADD, which, yes explained all of his struggle's through school, but his doctor did NOT give him stimulants, instead, the idiot gave him antidepressants. Antidepressants can help with the shame of failure that accompanies ADD, but they don't prevent future failures from happening. So the guy has even more trouble getting another job.
So you can imagine what's coming---she disbelieves the diagnosis, and decides he's a slacker. Whatever he tries to succeed at, she disses as not good enough. At one point, she actually has the NERVE to proposition Mr.Cotta. (Yes, you read that right, she wanted to have an affair with MY husband!) He tells her no, and comes home and tells me right away. I'm ticked, but I'm glad he's coming home to me, and make it clear I don't want her around our house, or kids and think very little of her. He still meets her for lunch in public places, mostly business related, which I don't like, but I'm trying not to be controlling. You know, because I'm trying very hard to be the bigger person, blah, blah, blah, even though deep down I just want to SLAP her.
The piece de resistance? She dumps her husband and gets a live in nanny, and now spends all of her time telling my husband how wonderful her life is now that she got rid of the husband with that so-called mental problem, ADD. She kept the big house with the pool and the kids, and has her fancy job, with the six-figure salary, and he's now stuck in some crummy little apartment with no money, and surprise, surprise, is getting even more depressed even on the ADs. Recently he finally found a good permanent job, instead of the temp ones & the contract ones he had, and thank God his life is getting better. No thanks to her.
Now, I know that marriages break up and divorce happens, but can I just say that dumping someone struggling with mental issues when that person supported you for years through all of your issues, is pretty fucking low class? He's a kind guy, never been angry or violent or drunk, nothing even remotely like that. He's a good dad, admittedly not the best at domestic duties, but well, he was having some medical problems, and trying to solve them. Just not at the pace she dictated I guess....
I've said it before and I'll say it again, marriage is supposed to be about sticking by each other through sickness and in health, through good times and in bad. And I for one, am tired of hearing about imperfect people who hold their spouses to standards of perfection they themselves cannot reach. He took care of her for years, someone with integrity might clue in that she owed him that much in return. Does she have to stay married to him forever? Certainly not, but you don't kick somebody when they are down. It's just low class.
And I sure as hell don't want her talking to my husband! I trust him, but I really don't trust her. She's a viper, one of those women who can't seem to be happy in her own backyard; anyone unclear about why I don't want her sniffing around in mine? Gee, maybe because I'm getting fatter all the time, and not precisely calender girl sexy right now? Or maybe because pregnancy and hormones make me very very emotional, or maybe because I'm kind of gassy, and if I cough too hard, I pee myself, and I'm slowly becoming a slummy mummy due to staying at home and not working for a paycheque?
Yeah, three guesses why I don't want him hanging out with an attractive sexually voracious skinny rich bitch who slams people with ADD and has her sights trained on him.