tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post2029492726530153956..comments2023-09-27T07:39:16.834-04:00Comments on No Matter How Small: Thinking, thinking, thinkingAureliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13691032415028867902noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-76547426779059581032006-09-13T14:10:00.000-04:002006-09-13T14:10:00.000-04:00I believe that forever family is not just a phrase...I believe that forever family is not just a phrase. Because no matter how much my parents disappoint me (or I disappoint them), they are still my parents. I can choose not/to have a relationship with them...but they are still my parents. So even if you cut off your adoptive parents...or your birth parents...they are still your adoptive parents...or your birth parents. It's a forever family...whether it works or not is a whole other matter entirely.<br /><br />Let's face it, all parents worry that their children will grow up to hate them. That feeling just seems magnified through the lens of adoption because NOBODY has quite established the 'perfect' adoption plan.<br /><br />I read something the other day that stuck with me. It said that in an adoption situation, the parents (adoptive and birth) have to come to terms with the same thing that all parents have to deal with...that their children may some day leave them...only they have to do it much sooner. It has got to be a difficult thing to deal with. And some may not be equipped to handle it (as it sounds your parents were not). But there will always be parents who aren't equipped to be parents...whether they're raising biological children or adopted children. I don't see it as a problem unique to adoption. But that could be a result of having worked with abused and neglected kids for too long. :o)Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01160908955133304449noreply@blogger.com