tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post3625443225466576099..comments2023-09-27T07:39:16.834-04:00Comments on No Matter How Small: Plans are underwayAureliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13691032415028867902noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-77561795529868085092008-02-17T23:56:00.000-05:002008-02-17T23:56:00.000-05:00You all love P., so I don't see what else you coul...You all love P., so I don't see what else you could possibly do. It sounds like it will be a difficult journey, but, especially for his kids, it sounds like the best plan. I hope his doctors know what they're doing. I have the same cynicism you do toward most of them...but there are a few good ones out there, and I hope P. has one of them.UnrulyArchivisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03323533909605420081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-42117142436730965802008-02-17T14:51:00.000-05:002008-02-17T14:51:00.000-05:00My family went through the same thing with my sist...My family went through the same thing with my sister. Everywhere we turned for help, we found no assistance because my sister was resistant to treatment. This was particularly surprising to us because, at the time, she was a minor, so we thought my parents would be able to make these sorts of life-saving decisions on her behalf. But they weren't.<BR/><BR/>Fortunately, because we were totally relentless in trying to save her, she finally reached a point where she lives a stable, independent and relatively happy life. But if we'd just left her to her own devices, I'm certain she wouldn't have made it to 18. <BR/><BR/>I hope your family has a similar experience to ours. I know how hard it is. I'll be thinking of you.tobacco brunettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17332174946878566188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-48537011108356214432008-02-17T11:05:00.000-05:002008-02-17T11:05:00.000-05:00I'm so sorry you guys are going through this. I r...I'm so sorry you guys are going through this. I really hope that he comes around and is able to admit to needing help. In any case, it is clear that you all care so much and you only want what is best for him. I hope he will rely on you guys a little and let himself be helped. I know, admitting to needing help is a really hard thing for a lot of people. But it isn't a sign of weakness (like I once thought it was), it is a sign of great strength.EmmaLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01976963296705941968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-1489990012692261862008-02-17T01:46:00.000-05:002008-02-17T01:46:00.000-05:00As a marriage and family therapist I think that wh...As a marriage and family therapist I think that what you are doing is the right thing to do. Those who toiled to "free" mental patients from treatment did them a terrible disservice. With good treatment and follow up, people can return to their lives better equipped with tools to help them be happy and productive. People whose judgment is impaired need to be helped. Would we let someone we love who has a broken leg or a bleeding wound avoid medical care? You and your family are doing the right thing and I pray that your brother-in-law is able to have a chance at living a better life as a result.<BR/>Dr. Rona MichelsonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-31499790553396968962008-02-16T21:08:00.000-05:002008-02-16T21:08:00.000-05:00These situations are incredibly complex. You are d...These situations are incredibly complex. You are doing what you think is best for him. I am so sorry you have to deal with this, you've already got 'the job' pregnancy!<BR/><BR/>Your mention of patient rights reminded me of the homeless men I used to work with in our shelter program. There are no easy answers, but I think you are right about family and social supports. These guys are all on the streets because of government cutbacks that were presented as empowering to these patients.moplanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16998309937928231527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-61714769748972115312008-02-16T18:12:00.000-05:002008-02-16T18:12:00.000-05:00Sadly, I think, if the person is not a danger to t...Sadly, I think, if the person is not a danger to themselves or others, they can indeed refuse treatment. Some treatment is too hard, with too many side effects, and never having had to do that I can't really judge people who decide that they can't take that.<BR/>P doesn't sound like he is in that category, though, and I hope that he can get to a place where he actually wants to work on his treatment, and that family support can help get him there.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745262857388007041noreply@blogger.com