tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post7074121242488494304..comments2023-09-27T07:39:16.834-04:00Comments on No Matter How Small: Hey God, It's me AureliaAureliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13691032415028867902noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-34353874154760321682009-05-05T21:06:00.000-04:002009-05-05T21:06:00.000-04:00my daughter is 12 and is now beginning puberty as ...my daughter is 12 and is now beginning puberty as well. im with you- prayer and valium! as for dysfunctional families - i feel your pain. things are never what they seem from the outside looking in.hope you had a good trip!Other Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09611613017903132628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-85826803442161916392009-04-28T18:09:00.000-04:002009-04-28T18:09:00.000-04:00Whoops! You mean I'm only supposed to blog ab...Whoops! You mean I'm only supposed to blog about POSITIVE stuff??!!??<br />"you know God that things aren't always as they seem." <= Amen to that! of course I feel guilty bitchin' when by all outward appearances I should have it M*A*D*E, but that's part of why surfin' & bloggin' is helpful to me...Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03152215204773184788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-75176452897464160892009-04-27T19:41:00.000-04:002009-04-27T19:41:00.000-04:00Hang in there and don’t let these things get to yo...Hang in there and don’t let these things get to you. They will pass… <br /><br />But in the meantime, let’s break things down: <br /><br />1) Insane families<br />If they’re truly insane there’s nothing you can do but roll with the punches (so to speak) and if that’s more than just a figure of speech then it’s a more complicated problem that needs to be addressed in greater detail. But if they’re just bog-standard loco, well… join the club. <br /><br />2) Brother-in-Law’s Diagnosis <br />It’s all too easy to get messed up with remarkably poor treatment when it comes to mental health issues, but solving the problem isn’t anywhere near as simple. As counterintuitive as it may sound, your brother-in-law (the one who’s apparently screwed up, no offense intended) needs to take charge and demand proper help (he may need some assistance to back him up here), but in doing so, he also has to be completely honest and forthright about what’s causing him grief and anguish in the first place. The best thing might be to insist that his GP refer him to a psychiatrist and then go from there… (And my apologies if I’m just missing the boat here or you’ve already been down this path before.)<br /><br />3) Kaz & Puberty<br />Face the fact that you’re in for some tough sledding for a while. Don’t take his outbursts too seriously because a lot of what’s probably coming from him is pretty irrational and dopey. So acknowledge his petulant diatribes, and misdirected anger, etc., but don’t react instantly to any provocations (as instinctually tempting as that might be) and try to avoid spiraling into confrontational situations where you just both end up at loggerheads. Take deep breaths and suck it up. See if you can’t catch him offguard with some gesture that shows you care about him and let him know you’re there to support him rather than being an overtly antagonistic martinet. Not that I’m suggesting you are, but he might see it that way. Kids…Red Toryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00422305796158017027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-18372163510603555042009-04-27T09:15:00.000-04:002009-04-27T09:15:00.000-04:00I have read that there are a huge number of parall...I have read that there are a huge number of parallels between the toddler & teen stages, so your comment about tantrums like a three-year-old is bang on. Your husband, however, I have no explanation for (but sympathy -- sometimes I think my husband is making up for the lack of toddlers in our life too). (((hugs)))loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-22623307994821614912009-04-24T14:51:00.000-04:002009-04-24T14:51:00.000-04:00I'm so glad the teen stage is still far far ahead ...I'm so glad the teen stage is still far far ahead of me. I suppose terrible two's are peanuts in comparison, they're just around the corner.Lut C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03893061829410958985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-75670248573617730292009-04-24T10:25:00.000-04:002009-04-24T10:25:00.000-04:00Sorry things are bad - I hope they improve soonSorry things are bad - I hope they improve soonCarohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08210823139583056706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-90966849440448878732009-04-24T05:36:00.000-04:002009-04-24T05:36:00.000-04:00Patti beat me to it... if I didn't know so well ho...Patti beat me to it... if I didn't know so well how you feel about summer camp, I'd suggest boarding school too.decemberbabyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04088233282015307702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-15808426094966107692009-04-23T22:06:00.000-04:002009-04-23T22:06:00.000-04:00I think someone should implement a teenager exchan...I think someone should implement a teenager exchange program - you know, you could trade for someone unrelated to you who might behave well in your home.<br /><br />I hope your BIL can get some quality treatment.areyoukiddingmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16107214079237461141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-21949741367521002772009-04-23T21:05:00.000-04:002009-04-23T21:05:00.000-04:00A doctor who could help??! LMAO.
sorry babe.A doctor who could help??! LMAO. <br />sorry babe.moplanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16998309937928231527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-66682291034035969252009-04-23T17:22:00.000-04:002009-04-23T17:22:00.000-04:00Right there with ya on the teen thing, lady and am...Right there with ya on the teen thing, lady and am not finding 14 any easier (he's actually almost 15, god help me). Sometimes, I'm embarassed to say, I wish we had enough cash to consider boarding school.<br /><br />I think the British have it right. ;)LadyofAvalon56https://www.blogger.com/profile/12486252994725146208noreply@blogger.com