tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post734557509016161860..comments2023-09-27T07:39:16.834-04:00Comments on No Matter How Small: Balancing the good and the badAureliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13691032415028867902noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-23327288053585548912007-12-12T03:05:00.000-05:002007-12-12T03:05:00.000-05:00Good news, indeed. I can't tell you how happy it ...Good news, indeed. I can't tell you how happy it all makes me. Not that it matters, but you take my breath away. Be well, my friend.thricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09528308384855206125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-87525626781589421392007-12-11T18:33:00.000-05:002007-12-11T18:33:00.000-05:00I'm impressed you can feel the baby move at all at...I'm impressed you can feel the baby move at all at this point! I know you already know this but remember there are a lot weeks still before you will feel dinkypie move regularly. I know...no help at all. Don't even know why I said it. I just want to find some magic words to make it all easier- even though I know they don't exist.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05528541804521203406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-76618819985747586132007-12-11T17:36:00.000-05:002007-12-11T17:36:00.000-05:00I am right there with you... trying to stay positi...I am right there with you... trying to stay positive, but still terrified. Hugs!Cibelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02361386515177047271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-78039217908759725932007-12-11T16:47:00.000-05:002007-12-11T16:47:00.000-05:00Hmm, maybe Niobe has a point here. I'm horrified ...Hmm, maybe Niobe has a point here. I'm horrified that this is your M.O., and yet I understand it totally. It would be me, to a T. In fact, it sounds by the advance planning you've done that you HAVE embraced the fear, or maybe "faced it down" is a better way of putting it. You're dealing with it the best you can. And what you did on the first day of K? You're an amazing mom. Simply amazing. Now go lie down.Tashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07376651134993450207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-47442217807246096672007-12-11T16:04:00.000-05:002007-12-11T16:04:00.000-05:00It's ok to be scattered. At this point I think you...It's ok to be scattered. At this point I think you can scarcely avoid it. Hey heck...perhaps embrace it with humor?...if at all possible.<BR/><BR/>Never missed a concert yet! Wow! Now that is impressive considering your boy's ages.<BR/><BR/>I once scheduled the finalization of the selling of a house based on having my girl's 4th birthday in our old place first.<BR/><BR/>I have ocd with fearful thoughts in another areas. As soon as I recognize that I've thought a negative thought...I pray.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07135144307292570188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-34823500705878025342007-12-11T13:17:00.000-05:002007-12-11T13:17:00.000-05:00Last night, apparently we were in similar zones. ...Last night, apparently we were in similar zones. For a good week now, I was so busy studying for finals that my mind had no time to wander over to doubt and fear. It was nice while it lasted. Yesterday night, after the completion of the last final of the semester, the doubt and fear smacked me upside the head again. Husband was asleep and I just lie there on the coach realizing the "what if's". I was struck with terror that there are no guarantees and I could be a dead baby carrier right then and there. Thank god my meds kicked in not too long after that thought, and I was soon in a drug induced, no dream sleep. Excellent.<BR/><BR/>I am so happy that you are able to feel the baby move. As a first timer, I haven't a fucking clue whether there is movement yet. But perhaps I will spend the remainder of the day trying to figure it out.Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01904286943340898221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-31498042808465924832007-12-11T09:52:00.000-05:002007-12-11T09:52:00.000-05:00I don't think there's any way around the worrying ...I don't think there's any way around the worrying and terror, so perhaps you could try embracing them, welcoming them as old friends?<BR/><BR/>That's what I've been trying to do. Admittedly, with mixed results.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685766216611639434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-20061396756361683292007-12-10T22:02:00.000-05:002007-12-10T22:02:00.000-05:00I fretted my way through my entire IVF pregnancy. ...I fretted my way through my entire IVF pregnancy. Everything that I knew could go wrong, I worried that it would. When the movement started (about 18 weeks - first pregnancy) it was wonderful but also dreadful in some ways, because I worried even more when I <I> couldn't </I> feel them (twins) move. I envied those friends who got pregnant easily, first time, and glowed their way through pregnancy.<BR/><BR/>And I didn't even have any past baby deaths to contend with.<BR/><BR/>I'm sure these are hollow words coming from a complete stranger, but it sounds as if you're doing an amazing job coping with your considerable load. I hope you can find some mental peace soon.<BR/><BR/>(This is my first time commenting, but I've been reading for a while.)andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14727096855154340102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-22734104190005434852007-12-10T21:48:00.000-05:002007-12-10T21:48:00.000-05:00Eat, and lie on the couch looking at your nice hou...Eat, and lie on the couch looking at your nice house. And then eat some more.Magpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15460136246441367993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30651776.post-57942848818807302862007-12-10T20:18:00.000-05:002007-12-10T20:18:00.000-05:00Shit A, I don't know what an appropriate comment i...Shit A, I don't know what an appropriate comment is here.<BR/><BR/>I think these things but haven't actually had to live them beyond the thinking and fear part. You have tremendous strength and I admire you for passing through all of this with you wicked black humour intact.<BR/><BR/>I'm such an amateur I was wondering why you were expecting to feel dinkypie. Why don't you have a doppler?<BR/><BR/>Christmas lights, home decor and new curtains - you are lapping me babe. Go lie down.moplanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16998309937928231527noreply@blogger.com