Recently, things have been a bit calmer in my house, because my family has had a better time of it financially. Personally, I have my ups and downs but it's amazing what a positive bank balance as opposed to a negative one can do for the general feeling of zen in the house.
Should've known better.
1. AF is not here, but of course it is premature menopause fuckin' with my mind again and not the desired outcome.
2. In all good faith & intentions I have made some comments on various place on the web, and some have been taken well, and some I'm not sure. Foot-in-mouth again....or just paranoia. I'm feeling hypersensitive so maybe not.
3. My husband's family has a complex medical and mental history, including hypercholesterolemia, depression, and neurological ailments in various forms. (My kids so far have none of these, btw, but I digress...)
I mention this last one as an intro to say this week my brother-in-law, hmmm we'll call him "P.", is having some problems. He lives in London, England, and had a quadruple bypass about 5 years ago. He has had several TIAs since and doesn't take any of the meds he should consistently, and drinks to excess, smokes, and eats every fatty food he can find. And now his biotech venture isn't there anymore & his marriage has broken down. His wife moved out with the kids a few months ago.
So 2 nights ago he tried to kill himself. A really serious attempt. He was found in time, taken to the hospital and let out again, then a few hours later suffered a series of seizures related to the attempt and was taken back. He is in a hospital ward in serious condition.
In a day or two we think he'll be let out, and he will be homeless, penniless, and sick all alone thousands of miles from us.
You see, his wife V. decided this exact moment, AFTER his suicide attempt, was the perfect time to move back in to the family home, get an injunction forbidding him from coming back home, and cut him off from the family bank accounts.
She refuses to help him get mental help or support him, house him or feed him. (I'm not saying she should live with him, but she could get him an apartment, and stock it with food and get him a Dr.) She seems to have forgotten that whole "in sickness and in health" thing. She has informed us we should fly there and take responsibility for him!
P. is no saint, he has been badly off for awhile, and awful to live with, but he doesn't deserve this...this is just wrong....his wife is his legal next-of-kin and has an obligation to support him in this situation.
But the immorality of what she has done is just killing me. I can't wrap my head around this. It feels so vulture-like. My husband or one of his brothers may fly out in a few days, we may be bringing P. back here, if he'll come. I think he won't leave because he will want to be near his kids. Or the depression will make his medical conditions worse, and he will die from the stress and anxiety.
This is a rambling post that makes no sense...I just wish I could see the future.