You all know I've been trying to get the government to pay more attention to the issues of infertility and loss and adoption. But what you may not know is the kind of ignorance from the right wing I have to battle up here. In the U.S., adoption is so embraced by the Christian right, they've practically turned it into a mission from God, a rather bizarre proposition, but in keeping with their views on discouraging single mothers, etc. so it's consistently bizarre at least.
Well Stephen Taylor is the head of the Blogging Tories up here in Canada, and while not employed directly by the Conservative Prime Minister Stephen Harper, he is very very closely associated. (You remember Harper? The guy who screwed over every infertile couple in Canada by stacking the Board of the Assisted Human Reproduction Agency with medically illiterate partisans and religious wingnuts, but not one Doctor or patient?)
I think you all need to check this post on how Harper and his family are "ordinary" and Liberal Leader Stephane Dion and his family are "not ordinary." Taylor tried to backpeddle all over the place with a stupid chart, but has failed miserably, and it keeps going all through the comments.
"Conservatives will have a lot of success portraying Mr. and Mrs. Harper as the ordinary Canadian family. Mr. Harper is an ordinary guy, with ordinary hobbies (hockey) with ordinary kids and some ordinary cats. The party will likely be successful because, by definition, the "typical" person is "ordinary" and can therefore relate."
So not only is Taylor implying that Dion's adopted daughter is out of the ordinary, there are comments he has made replying to others that a family with two children is more normal than a family with one child, which is a slam at Dion & Krieber's courageous admission that they are infertile. They are my heroes for that, since so few public figures EVER come out about infertility. And for them to be slighted?
I've heard crap like this for years from strangers...my whole life in fact. That somehow, I wasn't ordinary because I was adopted, that I "didn't get my kids the regular way" because I'm infertile, being shunned as the mother of dead children. The code words they use are subtle, but we know what everyone is getting at. Ordinary means not adopted/biological/natural/real, ordinary means fertile, ordinary means mothering living children.
I'm deeply offended as an adoptee.
I'm deeply offended as an infertile woman.
It gets worse; he drones about about demographics, but maybe Taylor needs to check his stats...20% of the Canadian population is infertile, and 20% have made a family through adoption. One in four women will lose a baby in their lifetime.
(There is some overlap in these groups, but not a lot.)
I'm also getting offended by the inference that it's all about strategy. International adoption and mixed race families ARE the 21st Century norm in Canada whether through immigration or marriage or adoption, and frankly Dion was ahead of the curve. And as I recall, Harper was embracing all those families just recently with his new program to speed up international adoption, so WTF is Taylor going on about? Did he miss the strategy meeting on that?
Another one? This comment which criticizes Mr.Dion for having a "speech impediment". Well, dumbass, it's called a speech disability, something Dion doesn't have, he speaks FRENCH. A second language is not a disability. But even IF he had a speech disability...are the disabled not allowed to run for office? Guess not in Stephen Taylor's world, or he would have called the commenter on it, or deleted it.
As a mother of a child with speech & learning disabilities, I'm deeply offended by that.
Anyone who can read polling knows that all the groups I've mentioned add up to a lot more than 50%. They are the new normal, the ordinary people I see at Tim Horton's and at my hockey rink. The two Steve's didn't see us before because we had been shoved in the closet. But it was getting damn crowded in there.
So we're coming out.
Fuckin' deal with it.
H/T to RT, Scott Tribe, Cerberus, and everyone else for blogging about this as well. I owe you guys a beer!