Sunday, December 28, 2008

The reason I won't answer my doorbell today

This happens regularly to women who lose a pregnancy under 20 weeks gestation in Canada, at least according to my support group. It doesn't happen to women in Massachusetts or California or any of the other pro-choice states that have managed to write a law determining what should happen to fetal remains, literally thus: all women undergoing a D&C or a natural miscarriage or whatever, sign documents stating what they would like the pathology department to do after they do their mandatory examination of the contents of the uterus: either dispose of the remains as hospital waste, bury the remains as part of a compassionate hospital program, or help the woman to make arrangements of her own with a funeral home.

Those states respect all choices, even ones they don't understand.

No one respected my choice.

No one has the right to traumatize a patient and violate their rights. Ever.

I think I'll just leave the house and not be home today.


  1. I am completely bewildered by how far behind Canada is on matters such as this. It's so utterly disappointing to me because I really do believe I live in the best country in the world.


    Thinking of you today, Aurelia.

  2. Still cant beleive that story, madness! HUGS my friend xxxxx

  3. Sorry again for your loss, Aurelia. Things should change.

  4. Like c I used to assume we had things under control. Or at the very least knew how to react appropriately when things went wrong.
    I've started to wonder if this city's reputation amongst the rest of the country for heartlessness isn't deserved.

  5. Yikes!! I wouldn't be answering the doorbell either. I'm so sorry. :( Have you ever told that story in a parent panel session? -- I'm sure it would open a few eyes. (((hugs)))

  6. Absolutely the shittiest day. I'm not sure I'd collect the mail on any day after that.

  7. Oh my - I had read that before, but buried it deep in my subconscious... Absolutely unconscionable!

  8. That took my breath away. I just don't know what to say.