We seem to found detente in the house, and kid's have apologized and life is getting slightly happier. We rehearsed some ways of doing things differently so we don't blow up....and we're going to keep rehearsing. Mr.Cotta is more onside than he was. I think the size of the blow-up convinced him.
Also, he moves into his new room next week, which has no door, and we've decided he has to earn that door. It will not be automatic. I was going to take the door off his current room right away but we're moving into that room monday and he is moving out----and I am tired. Akeeyu's idea about the sheet is brilliant. He may earn a sheet first, then a door.
Speaking of moving rooms and painting and stuff....I am 1200 feeds behind, so the plan is this. For the next few days, no comments from me until I have clicked through and read all your news. And updated my blogroll, which so out-of date, it's a joke. I will comment if it's critical, but I sometimes get so stuck on what to write that I get behind and ---you all know? It's useless then! Cause I'm up to date with some of you and so far behind it's a joke with the rest of you. Very embarassing.
I need to catch up on my life!
Glad to hear that things are a little bit settled down for you!
ReplyDeleteGreat idea about rehearsing how to deal with this..and love the idea about earning the sheet and the door! Bravo to the Cottas!
ReplyDelete1200 feeds. Holy cow! Blogging can become a full-time business, no?
Sounds much more pleasant.
ReplyDeleteAnd a good plan on reading sans commenting.
I am catching up on my reader as well-- something to do while I am sick. I was soooo behind before, it wasn't even funny.
I need to catch up too -- I always do one list and then not the other, and forget keeping up with the people marked "private" -- need a special folder that sounds a daily siren or something.
ReplyDeleteThe door/sheet thing is brilliant, and I'm tucking it away in the memory banks. Detente is a good place.
Well, I had to catch up by reading the previous post. Yikes. I am so sorry you all had to go through that.
ReplyDeleteI didn't read through all of the previous comments so if this already came up, please feel free to ignore. In our house I consider the fact that my kids have their own rooms another privilege among many. While I do allow them a certain degree of privacy in their rooms, I do not consider their rooms "theirs" in the sense of full, entitled ownership. We pay for the house. We pay for the upkeep. We paid for the furniture that went in those rooms. And we are the ones who will continue to live here after they are gone. Their rooms are their temporary space given to them as a gift by their parents while living under our roof. Therefore, their rooms should be treated as a privilege and a gift.
Teenagers have so many issues with entitlement that I think the more we can demonstrate to them that almost all good things in life are EARNED the better off they will be.
I think earning a sheet first is a great (and hilarious) idea!
I'm jealous that Akeeyu reads your blog.
ReplyDelete1200 - oh my gosh! I think it's bad when I get 50 behind! Yikes!
ReplyDeleteI'm behind too. But 1200? And the private ones are hard to stay on top of too.
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