I've talked about my size before, and people who have met me IRL know that I am small, short and kind of skinny. When I am pregnant, I become as large as a house, in fact, one person joked that I was as wide as I was tall. But since I was having a long-awaited baby I didn't mind. Too much.
And at other times, I have added on 10-20 pounds and not worried about it, unless I couldn't fit into newer clothes I had just bought. But in the last six months, I have added 20-30 pounds solely due to thyroid and illness issues. Which sucks, because I view it as my body jumping up and down yelling, "Nyah, nyah, you're screwed!"
And after 5 extended pregnancies and multiple early miscarriages, I have no stomach muscles, at all. In fact, I have more extra skin....than I care to describe on this blog, sweeties!
Well, the combo has done me in. The only place I've got weight right now is my stomach, not my boobs, not my ass, not all evenly around my body, just my stomach, on my tiny rest-of-me body. I look 5 months gone, I swear. But nobody has said anything IRL, so I figure, maybe it's my imagination? Maybe I'm just projecting my insecurities about female body shape and society?
Nope.
Yesterday, a staffer at my kid's school walked up to me and patted my stomach, and tilted her eyebrow, "So...?"
My shocked reply, "I'm not pregnant, I'm fat, but thanks for pointing that out!" I nervously laughed, and she nervously laughed, and we both uncomfortably walked away. I didn't know what else to do, I was so floored.
What do you guys think? I guess I need to buy some control top underwear or something. Shit....
Oh, lord. I can't believe she did that.
ReplyDeleteI make a point NEVER to mention pregnancy unless someone is either in labor or wearing a sign that says, "I'm pregnant".
Yikes. I am sorry that happened. I still have days, especially if I have eaten a lot, where I look 5 mos pregnant at the end of the day.
Oy. At least she didn't rub your belly.
ReplyDeleteHoo boy. If you buy a control top underwear, I would suggest stuffing them in that staffer's mouth.
ReplyDeleteLOL- I really like DD's idea!
ReplyDeleteSince getting pregnant I am awestruck about the stupid and insensitive comments people make.
I went shopping with a pregnant friend yesterday. The lady asked us both when we are due and when we answered within 2 days of each other, she looked at my friend and said "Are you having twins because you are huge!". I was so put off I wanted to leave, and the comment wasn't even directed to me.
Stupid, unthinking people.
I have not muscles left in my belly either. So I also have all my weight in my belly. And I have had the same comment said to me. But I was not polite when I said very nasty. No I am not pregnant just fat. I don't understand why people just assume that somebody is pregnant just because they have a belly.
ReplyDeleteI think dd definitely has the right idea. People really do manage to say the most stupid things.
ReplyDeleteHOLY CRAP MAN??!! She didn't!
ReplyDeleteI hope she felt as tiny as your ass. How rude. And stupid.
DD's got a good plan there...
Laugh - definitely laugh. She had to feel awful about it. Besides, it's always better to laugh if it's an option.
ReplyDeleteThere is no way, no how, that you look pregnant in real life. I don't even see how it could have been mistaken.
ReplyDeleteI would slap the bitch!
Yah, I've got that tummy too. I'm just glad that I'm actually pregnant as well. But perpetual pregnancy not being an option, I'm already stashing cash to deal with it surgically when I'm done with babies.
ReplyDeleteI did see a program about a mom of twins that were followed by sextuplets. She ultimately had a tummy tuck too, but in the first part of that program she showed the world her tummy and how it was securely tucked into her control panties. You certainly never would have known she was in that kind of (awful, stretched-out) shape to look at her.
People really should learn not to make those comments. I suppose at least she won't ever ask anyone again.
ReplyDeleteShit indeed! I agree with dd too!
ReplyDeleteOh for goodness sake. Some people don't think. My grandmother - who in her old age would happily tell any man he looked like he was "having too much lunch" - told me never to ask a question like that!
ReplyDeleteUnless someone is actually have contractions in front of you you should never ask that! How rude!
ReplyDeleteWow, I mean, people say stupid things, but that's the pits.
ReplyDeleteYou're handling it a lot better than I would have.
This is unbelievable! No one should ever say something like that to ANY woman, pregnant or not. I don't even ask about a baby when the person has been pregnant, just in case something went wrong...and they ended up without a baby. People should try to catch a clue. Sorry this happened, I know how much it can hurt.
ReplyDeleteWhat a NO NO! I too have had people do that and I don't have any children (can't have children) and it hurts so bad! I've said the same remark to people. "Nope, I'm just fat" (wanting to add - thanks for pointing that out!) - Jen (jenbuster@gmail.com)
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